Leavin' N Cleavin'

Before I jump into my actual blog I would like to state that I need a tiny computer strapped to me at all times...because truly, my best bloggy thoughts are at 6:15 in the morning when I am blow drying my hair!!!

And now, let us begin:

I have been doing The Love Dare challenge, as of this morning I am on day 31.  (If you don't know, The Love Dare, is a 40 day challenge, you read a little blurb about marriage and get a challenge for the day...it has changed more in my heart than just my love towards my husband...very glad I decided to do it.)  Today was talking about how to having a COMPLETE marriage means that each person has to truly and totally LEAVE their parents and CLEAVE to their spouse.

Having witnessed a few of our couple friends having issues with this, I was truly thankful that this is one area we don't really have a problem with.   Many couples have an issue with one or both partners not wanting to let mom and dad go...LET THEM GO.  When you get married your parents become more like guides or sounding boards....they are and will always be your parents but you have to be independent of them...this means you don't always go running when they call and it means that your spouses needs are far above your parents.

It is more typical that a parent would have trouble letting go, we are after all their babies, but when your partner is the one refusing to cute the proverbial cord...it can cause HUGE issues in your marriage.  So please friends, recognize that you are now married and that you have GOT to let mom and dad go and be what your spouse needs and married you for.  I guarantee they did not marry you to get to be second place to mommy.

Think on this today.  Think about whether you might need to apologize to your spouse for putting your parents where they should be, or maybe you need to tell your spouse (kindly and humbly) that you feel like they need to let go.   Imagine what your marriage would be like if it was truly just you and your spouse...it's a good feeling, I can tell you that much!!!!

Love well,

~B